Optimism
My family likes to complain that I am a pessimist and tell me I would be happier if I were more optimistic. They don’t understand. Some of the unhappiest people I know are optimists, because they falsely assume that optimism produces good outcomes. Their optimism feels to them like a magical talisman that will protect them. When their positive thinking does not shield them from bad outcomes they feel betrayed by Fate, often taking it personally, and sometimes becoming bitter.
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No, I am NOT a pessimist
Most of my family and many of my closest friends call me a pessimist. I disagree. I believe I am a pro-active optimist, someone whose default is that things will work out in the end - but not automatically. Only if we do our part to ensure success.
When I challenge their characterization of me as a pessimist, the response is generally along the lines of: “You always assume the worst possible thing will probably occur.” But I am not assuming that at all.
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A Christmas Tradition
For me, Christmas has always been about family time, music, and comfortable traditions.
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Behind the curtain...
As I watched my 17 month old granddaughter decode the world, it was impossible not to marvel at the enormity of the task and wonder what was going on behind that so expressive face as she processes the flood of sights, sounds, feelings, tastes, experiences, and consequences. Some predictable, but many not.
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The ineluctable logic of the child
We couldn’t find her sneakers anywhere. They weren’t in the travel bag, under the bench in the mudroom, in either car, at friends’ houses, in the closet or under the bed. After two days, we gave up and bought a new pair sneakers.
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She thinks I'm real
As a child, I looked forward to the infrequent family outings that involved a restaurant. As the eldest of three, it gave me a chance to strut my stuff in front of my sisters: I was allowed to order without much interference, so it was a rare opportunity to have a cheeseburger, fries and the most chocolate item available for dessert.
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Father's Day thoughts
It’s been four years since my Dad died.
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Put on your shoes
It was January and there were several inches of fresh snow on the ground and no shoveled path to the car. The temperature in the teens. I had an errand to run with a child who INSISTED on going barefoot. The following brief conversation between a seriously sleep deprived post-call parent and an articulate three year old.
“Do you want to put your shoes on yourself, or do you want help?”
"I don't NEED to wear shoes. My feet aren't cold."
"They will be. It's cold out."
"My feet aren't cold."
"Put your shoes on."
"No."
"Fine."
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Father's Day Remembrance
It’s Father’s Day. My Dad is gone, but not his impact.
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Imagination at work
A wonderful thing, imagination, with the vast possibilities it allows.
Nana Cindy, Bumpa Pooh and (Princess) Phoebe were enjoying a wonderful pretend picnic in her bedroom. Phoebe was describing in sometimes startling detail the preparations for the picnic when she started pantomiming, pouring a liquid on her hands, rubbing her palms together, and then applying it to her doll. We asked if she was using sunscreen, and she paused and looked thoughtful while she considered the question.
“No,” she said. “Moonscreen.”
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